1. Are you frequently angry? Not just disgruntled or negative. But angry to the point that you can feel yourself getting red in the face, you can feel your blood pressure rising, and you want to strike out at something or someone.
2. Does your anger last for long periods of time? If your child spills his milk at breakfast are you still yelling at him about it when you pick him up from school?
3. When your boss makes you angry, do you take it out on your family at dinner that night?
4. Does the least little thing set you off? Do you get angry when the paperboy misses your porch and the paper lands in the driveway instead? Do you allow trivial things that should have no effect on your life to make you angry?
5. Do you find yourself always on the defensive? When someone points out to you that your shoe is untied it's not a criticism, it's an observation. People who have anger issues constantly feel they are being criticized and they become angrier because they feel they need to defend themselves.
6. Do you allow anger to control your life? Do you miss out on enjoying your time with your family because you're just too angry about what happened at work today? Is your job performance suffering because all you can concentrate on is what you should have said during your performance review?
7. Do you use your anger to help you get through life? Do you have to adopt an “I'll show HIM” attitude before you give your boss your best effort? Do you only try your best so you can prove someone wrong?
8. Is your anger too intense? Does your anger feel more like rage, to the point where you can't control it, the point where you couldn't stop being angry now no matter how hard you try?
9. Do you become aggressive and violent when you're angry? Are you the one smashing dishes and cell phones? Do you strike out at others when you're angry – either physically or verbally?
You may have purchased this guide in an effort to help you deal with an anger issue that's going on in your own home or your own life. And there may very well be a person in your life that has a problem with anger management. If that's the case, then this guide will help you learn to deal with those people. But if you answered yes to any of the above question, then you may have an
anger problem, too. That's not to say that you are causing the anger problems of those around you or that you are even the cause of any anger problem. But somewhere along the line, you have been affected by anger, just like that toddler in the doorway. Somewhere along the line, you were taught that it's OK to express your anger in any way you see fit. In fact, you may even think it's necessary to become violently angry because somewhere along the line, someone
told you:
IT'S NOT GOOD TO HOLD YOUR ANGER INSIDE.... LET IT OUT!
But there are healthy ways to express your anger. And throwing things, screaming, stomping around and hurting those around you is not healthy. With this guide, we're going to take a look at just how much better your life will be when you learn to control and manage your anger.
Contrary to what you may think, managing your anger does not mean that you have to go through the rest of your life with rose-colored glasses on. You don't have to become a doormat either. It's OK to get angry. It's a natural, human emotion. But your life, and the lives of those around you, will be much better if you learn more productive ways of expressing that anger when it occurs.
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Fermi Mirza Alfarisi
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