It happens almost over night. One night, you're reading them a bedtime story and
they adore you, and the next night they're a teenager and they hate the fact that
you even exist! Welcome to Teenage Anger. You're not the first parent to
experience it, and you certainly won't be the last.
First, you need to understand that your teen's anger isn't directed at you
personally. Teenagers these days have a tremendous amount of stress from
sources that were unheard of when we were kids. Texting and Facebook alone are
enough to drive anyone crazy. Not to mention the physiological changes your teen
is going through.
You need to handle your teen's outbursts a little differently than you handle your
toddler's though. Let your teen know that, while it's alright to express anger,
aggression is unacceptable behavior. And then stop thinking about yourself. Stop
wondering why your teens are disrespecting YOU, stop worrying about why they
only ignore YOU. Start putting yourself in their shoes and consider all of the
pressures they're facing from school and friends and their own bodies.
Once you stop worrying about how they're treating YOU, you can step back and
see more of what they're actually going through. You'll be able to communicate
with them, to talk WITH them instead of AT them. You're relationship probably
won't be like any of those storybook relationships but you'll be helping your teens
learn how to handle their anger just by showing them how you handle yours.
Regards,
Fermi Mirza Alfarisi
email : fermimirza@gmail.com
Phone/WA : 085710420922
BBM : 75B55C77
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