As I said earlier, you've made a great first step just by admitting you need help
and purchasing this guide. Here are a few more tips to help you learn how to
manage your anger.
Count to 10
There are two reasons this works and no one ever mentions the second reason.
The first reason, of course, is that it gives you time to calm down a bit and come
up with an appropriate response when someone says or does something that
angers you. Better to count to ten and remain, than to blow up like a cannon.
But the second reason this looks is because, if you take the time to slowly count to
10, if all you're able to think of is an angry or abusive comeback, think how stupid
you're going to look at that point. For example, if someone says, “You're UGLY!”,
and then you have to slowly count to ten before you say , “Oh Yeah? Well....”
Think how foolish you're going to look having to take all that time to come up with
a response. Better to just keep your mouth shut and let the situation diffuse itself
at that point.
Once you've calmed down, express your anger – It's healthy to be angry, it's the
way you express it that counts. Do walk away or do whatever you have to do to
avoid abuse and violence. But do come back after you've calmed down. Don't
keep your anger inside.
Think before you speak
I realize that during the heat of the moment it's difficult to stop and think to avoid
saying something hurtful. If the situation is that far gone, you need to get up and
leave anyway. But, if you know you're going to have a confrontation and that it
may get a bit tense, write down what you want to say beforehand and stay on
message. Practice Assertive Communication techniques.
Identify Solutions
Instead of focusing on whatever happened that made you angry in the first place,
work with the other person to try to come up with a solution.
Let go of that grudge
It's unrealistic to expect that someone is going to do exactly what you want them
to do all the time. At some point they will do something to make you angry.
Learning to forgive the other person will help you both.
Learn to relax
Learning relaxation techniques to help you relax and de-stress will help you control
your anger when it flares up. We discussed breathing earlier, but you can also use
a relaxation technique called visualization to picture yourself in a relaxing setting
or to picture a relaxing scene. Self-talk is helpful, too. Repeating phrases, such as “Take it easy” “Take a deep breath”, can help you overcome your anger when
it starts to get out of control. Other proven methods of relaxation include, yoga,
journaling and music.
SHOULD YOU TAKE AN ANGER MANAGEMENT COURSE?
Some people have a difficult time even admitting they have a problem controlling
their anger. Others admit they have a problem and they want to resolve it, but
wanting to and being able to are two different things. Learning to control your
anger is a huge task and for some people, it's one they can't accomplish on their
own. A person with anger issues may be committed in their heart and mind to
make a change, but without a push to take the first step there won't be any
positive results.
People who need that little nudge often just need to know that they're not in this
alone. They're not the only person who ever had a problem with anger. These
people often need the help and support of a group of people, with similar
problems, who will support and encourage them in the fight to control their anger.
An anger management course might be just the thing for you if you need
additional help and encouragement while you're learning different techniques to
control your anger. These courses are designed to help people, in a group setting,
where there will be plenty of other people who share the same problems and
experiences. Anger management courses may take a full day and sometimes
they're weekend retreats.
But throughout these courses, people are taught useful techniques for managing
their anger. They’re taught how to deal with their frustrations and emotions and
how to discover the triggers for their outbursts. There are many lessons you can
learn when you attend an anger management course.
And anger management courses aren't only for adults. There are programs and
camps for children, adolescents and teenagers, as well. These courses for
younger people are interwoven with interesting, age appropriate activities that will
teach your child valuable life lessons regarding all their emotions, not just anger.
They'll be in the course with other children who are also experiencing the same
anger issues and they offer each other support and encouragement.
An anger management course may be the thing you can do for yourself and your
loved ones, to help you combat your anger issues. It can be exhausting and
overwhelming trying to deal with emotional issues by yourself and members of
your family won't have the necessary training and knowledge to help you help
yourself. Attending and anger management course let's you know that there are
people who care about you who are qualified to help you overcome this huge
obstacle in your path. And in a group setting, you'll have the help and support of
others who are in your same situation who also want to see you succeed.
If you're interested in attending an anger management course, you can get
information from your doctor or check with your local mental health organization.
You can also find several anger management related services on the Internet.
When you start looking for help with your anger issues, you can be
prepared by:
Identify your triggers
Start keeping notes of the things that set off your anger. Whoever you work with
will ask you about this and this will just save you some time in the process. But
being able to identify what causes your outbursts will help the therapist determine
what type of anger you're experiencing so they can determine the best way for
you to manage it.
Pay attention to physical signs
Keep a list of the signs you notice as your anger is rising. For example, do you
feel nauseous, are your palms sweating, are you clenching your jaw?
Make a not of emotional signs that you notice as your anger is rising, too, such as
feeling like you want to yell at someone or feeling like you want to strike someone.
When you do find someone who you want to work with, all of this information will
help them to help you that much quicker.
For your mental health, the mental health of your family, and to finally break the
cycle, it's imperative that you get help in learning techniques to help you control
your anger.
Congratulations, you’re now on your way to living the life you truly deserve, the
life that anger has been keeping you from.
If you still feel it difficult to control your anger following this course then it’s
important that you seek out professional help. The root cause of your anger could
stem from medical or deeper psychological issues that are outside the scope of
this eBook. In this case, consult your medical practitioner because you needn’t be
alone.
Regards,
Fermi Mirza Alfarisi
email : fermimirza@gmail.com
Phone/WA : 085710420922
BBM : 75B55C77
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